A Guide to Soft Bondage
A Guide to Soft Bondage
I read recently an article that described soft bondage as something ‘normal people’ do, I think the context of the writing was such that the author indulged in what they personally considered ‘extreme bondage practises’. Although I am not fond of labelling any sexual practise in terms of normal/abnormal or soft/hard, I suppose its apt in the bondage world where practises are diverse and a pair of fluffy handcuffs may not suit a person used to a dungeon full of instruments suitable for medieval torture. Soft bondage is more about experimenting inside your sex life, extending a fun element to sexual play and flirting with the idea of power play and risqué restraining scenarios.
When couples decide to ‘spice up their sex life’ (an oft overused phrase) the bondage section of an online sex shop is usually one of the first ports of call. Soft bondage requires a two-person team (or more!) and easily directs a couple to playful sex games they can enjoy together. A pair of bondage handcuffs is a popular start and gently introduces you to restraining play and experimenting with role-play inside your relationship. You don’t have to choose the ‘fluffy handcuffs’ of hen nights and sex toy parties that really represent the soft in soft bondage, instead choose a beginner’s metal cuff or Love Cuffs in nylon with Velcro fastening. Try Japanese Bondage Rope which offers the flexibility of tying arms and legs in the configuration of your choosing and can become an art form in itself with the delicate interweaving of twisted braid around the contours of the back and arms. Soft bondage doesn’t have to only come in shades of pink and overtly soft, fluffy material as there are many more edgy choices that remain in the mainstream ranges of quality manufacturers. Leather remains a soft and tactile material yet provides a strong bond for cuffs and harnesses and by mixing in metal with studs and spikes provides a sexy aesthetic to your bondage scene.
Bondage tools for punishment play are also popular soft bondage accessories and range from the soft quilted slapper to studded leather paddle for a harder spank at bedtime. For those that want the motions of a good spanking and less of a stinging backside the pink heart paddle is a great choice with its soft quilted touch. A good intermediate choice is the rubber whip which leaves a delicious sting on the skin to get the blood flowing but not so sharp that it leaves whelks whilst one of the sharpest stings comes from the English style riding crop that whistles through the air and sinks into soft skin in a wrist cracking motion that leaves your partner yelping with delight.
Soft blindfolds are good for gentle bondage and foreplay and can incorporate the use of sex toys to full effect and nipple clips with soft tips teasing the sensitive nipple area with or without vibrations help to arouse your partner by stimulating this erogenous zone. If you are struggling to make your choice try a bondage kit that includes all the restraints you will need to begin your bondage adventure and can be used on either man or woman depending on who is in charge!
