Which dildo is right for me?
Which dildo is right for me?
Choosing a dildo does seem to present a quandary to many and judging by the amount of questions we are asked about this classic sex toy it is a shared problem. Dildos don’t have the complex options of vibration and multi-function of vibrators or rabbit vibrators so why the conundrum? I often think it’s like putting us ladies in a metaphorical sweet shop with a vast array of goodies to choose from. Ordinarily the size and shape of a cock is as you find it but offered a tempting array and we ruminate on our love of pear drops, desire for liquorice and those tempting gob stoppers we have always longed for. It is also the case that stripped bare as a tool for penetrative pleasure the dildo’s attributes become a bigger issue than the intensity of a vibrators buzz. Shape, size, texture and feel all play a prominent part in your overall enjoyment of the dildo and therefore the devil sits very firmly in the detail.
When considering your dildo choice focus on girth first. Most men talk of 6, 7 or 12 inches when the real consideration for us girls is how thick is the dick. The vagina’s most sensitive part is the outer third that doesn’t need a long trouser snake to effectively stimulate it but instead a reasonable girth to massage the walls. Remember the vagina doesn’t have the web of sensitive nerve endings of the clitoris so concentrating on the most sensitive areas should maximise pleasure. To add to the confusion lots of sex toy manufacturers don’t proportionally correlate the length to the girth of their dildos, therefore an 8-inch dildo can be slimmer than a 7 inch. Also the name of a dildo can be very misleading, for instance we were sent a sample from a well known manufacturer called Big Cock and Balls which had a diameter of 1.5 inches, this would be smaller than our Prince Charming 6” dildo, considered relatively average in size.
Confused? There is every reason to be!
When looking at each dildo firstly check the technical data and note the smaller measurement shown. This is the diameter size that will determine the ‘fullness’ of the feeling and is therefore the crucial measurement. To give some idea of scale the smallest dildo in The Boudoir is the Dutch Delight at 1.25”, a mid sized dildo would be 1.5”-1.75” and a large version like the Pleasure Skin cock would be 2”-3” plus. Ignore the name and work on the numbers and you will be more likely to choose the dildo that fits you.
Another consideration is what you want to use your dildo for. If you want to simply grasp the dildo and use for self-pleasure a shafted dildo is a good choice such as the classic 8” dildo. If you want the option of using your dildo hands free choose a suction cup model that can be secured to smooth surfaces. If your partner wants to use it as part of fantasy play opt for a realistic dildo. If you love to stimulate the g-spot during masturbation choose a curved tip or dildo specific for g spot stimulation.
Once you have decided the size and purpose everything else is a matter of taste. A silicone dildo will warm quickly to the touch, whilst a real feel toy like silagel will have a solid core with softer pliable surface much like the real thing. An inflatable dildo is good for vaginal and anal penetration and of course can be pumped up to the desired size. Some people prefer a non-phallic dildo and others want a phallus as close to the real deal as possible. Glass and ceramic dildos can be warmed or cooled according to taste and offer a harder penetrative experience All of these peripheral choices are down to taste and preference and some experience obviously helps to make the right choice.
Keep asking the questions via The Boudoir enquiry form and we will be happy to wax lyrical on the best choice of dildo’s for you Enjoy!
