Beginners Guide to Anal Sex
Beginners Guide to Anal Sex
Anal play can be a pleasurable part of masturbation or intercourse. Anal Sex and anal sex toys have become an integral part of many couples sexual repertoire and can be a highly erotic sexual act. Stimulation with fingers, dildos and vibrating prostate toys can be an exciting and when following a few simple guidelines anal sex can be both sensual and a bonding act. You may not orgasm through anal stimulation alone so adopt the same principles as you do during vaginal sex and use various sex toys to stimulate the clitoris and vagina simultaneously.
Before you embark on your anal adventure
Lube Lube Lube
Never attempt anal sex without a sex lubricant. There is no natural lubrication inside the anus and rectum and if penetrated without reducing friction is painful and can tear. Using a water-based lubricant is fine but remember to re-apply regularly. Silicone lubricant is better as it is longer lasting and has a higher viscosity or you can choose an anal lube that will be the perfect thickness.
Stay Clean
If you have inserted your finger or sex toy into the anus don’t attempt to then penetrate the vagina without washing as it can cause infection. Although a favourite of porn films don’t penetrate the anus and then vagina without washing or changing your condom for the same reasons.
Communicate
Anal sex is a perfectly healthy desire in both men and women but communication is the key. Talking to each other before and after anal play will enhance your experience and lessen the chances of discomfort. Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings and listen to their likes and dislikes, exercising patience when beginning with anal sex is essential.
Relax
If you are nervous your body will be tense and the muscles naturally tighten. When the anal passage is tightened you will feel discomfort and inhibit the pleasurable receptors in the tissue folds of the anal passage. Let go of body and mind and relax. Work your way up to anal sex with plenty of foreplay and sensual touch, allow yourself to go with the flow and initially use other forms of stimulation so that you are not just concentrating on the initial anal penetration. Whilst some people prefer to use an anal desensitiser it shouldn’t be necessary if you are truly relaxed and remember that feeling pain or discomfort is a signal and it may not be a good idea to completely mask that.
Slow & Steady
The tissue in the anus is far more delicate than the vagina so a slower pace is required. Be gentle to begin with and listen to your partner.
Be Safe
If using a finger for insertion ensure your nails are clipped and check your sex toys for raised seams, cracks or rough edges. An anal sex toy should be very smooth to avoid tissue tear. A regular inspection of your toys would be a good idea and throw out any that are looking shabby.
