Female Orgasm Facts

It is a fact that more women than men report difficulties in achieving orgasm. It is stated that about 40% of men will experience some problems with climax during their sexual lifetime, however men tend to orgasm easier through both masturbation and sex which means that us girls need to be aware of the female orgasm facts.

So many facts and figures are tossed about in the flotsam of female sex stats but it appears that roughly 40% of women have difficulty at the desire stage of the sexual process, 25-33% of women reach regular orgasm during penetrative sex with about 60% experiencing difficulty to orgasm through penetration alone. There is also a condition called anorgasmia which effects about 10-15% of women which results in them failing to achieve orgasm at all whether through sex, sex toys or clitoral massage.
It seems a common process that female orgasm gradually builds to a peak with the eventual climax being anything from a slight tingle to full blown pulses of pleasure that take your breath away. There is no question that orgasm strength will differ according to many factors including stress levels, time of the month and even time of your life.

Physically a woman’s body goes through a complex set of changes during orgasm including contractions in the vagina, uterus and sphincter (a contributing element to the enjoyment of anal beads during climax). Muscle spasms can extend to the lower abdomen and buttocks and nearly all women need constant clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm at all. The method of clitoral stimulation will vary from woman to woman and even time of day for an individual. Some women can’t stand touch or vibration directly on the clitoris and others like to expose the bud of the clitoris and place on the strongest vibrators money can buy. It is down to you to experiment and experience self pleasure to find the best manual method or sex toy to suit.

Faking orgasms is a common preoccupation amongst women it seems with statistics quoting that 95% of women have faked their final flourish at some point compared to only 30% of men (yes it is possible for a man to bring on the amateur dramatics). These figures are probably due to the greater difficulty of a female to orgasm but also down to a lack of communication, lack of self-knowledge and insecurity when it comes to lovemaking. Unfortunately faking orgasm quickly becomes habit forming and discourages you from confronting the problem. How can you suddenly explain to your partner that orgasm evades you after months of Meg Ryan wails of ecstacy to wake the neighbours. Gradually change your sexual routine and encourage stimulation that builds on your orgasm, find time to discuss using sex toys and when alone discover what you need physically to climax. Both of you needs to be prepared to experiment during foreplay and sex and leave your ego's outside in the interest of ultimately reaching pleasure together.

When it comes to orgasm we can’t ignore the g-spot, which many women feel, gives them the most intense climax. Ernst Grafenberg first brought the female pleasure zone to light in 1950 which is found a few centimetres up the inside wall of the vagina. The g-spot feels much like a spongy patch and many women rave of the pleasurable sensations gained by rubbing this erogenous zone. Choosing a g spot vibrator is a great way of exploring the area as well as rabbit vibrators with a curved tip offering both g-spot and clitoral stimulation which blends the climax.

Orgasm Tips

1. Breathe – It sounds an obvious and necessary instruction but using your breath can really optimise the pleasure of an orgasm. Deeper breaths increase oxygen & blood flow to the genitals and taking a long deep breath at the point of climax sends the waves of pleasure much further and for longer than usual.

2. Clitoris – It is the place to bring on orgasm in nearly all cases. Either find a manual style that suits you or try clitoral vibrators. Focus on the clitoral ‘arm’ either side of the inner labia if the stimulation is too strong

3. The nerves that contribute to our climax can be stimulated at points away from the genitals. Try nipple stimulation, sensual massage and anal sex toys to benefit from a whole body experience.

4. Try not to fake your orgasms. If it isn’t working attempt to communicate with your partner they will be grateful in the long run. Adopt a routine that allows for clitoral massage not just penetration and share couples sex toys that stimulate you during sex.

5. Give the g-spot a go for an intense sensation that will complement your manual stimulation. A g-spot rabbit is a dual stimulator in one handy sex toy or master the rock chick specially designed for both clitoral and g spot massage.

6. If you struggle at the desire stage of the sexual process give it a boost with a good naughty read, erotic fiction can be shared and may also contribute some good sex scenarios to play out.

7. If you are having problems with lack of sensitivity inhibiting your orgasm try an orgasm gel. Simply rub a little onto your clitoris and sensation will improve with increased blood flow.