The sexual stages
The sexual stages
Wouldn’t it be dull if all you had to do was just press a button and you were catapulted to climax in 30 seconds. Even when using sex toys it isn’t about buying pleasure at a push of a button but enjoying all parts of the journey. Thankfully we all go through a series of sexual stages to reach the final destination of sexual satisfaction and examining your responses can be helpful in improving your sex life.
Stage 1 - Sex Drive
Sex Drive differs according to individual. Some people will have naturally high sex drives whilst others won’t and how motivated you are to have sex or masturbate will define how you see yourself as a sexual person. Some people exercise self pleasure as part of their routine and others are indifferent to sexual pleasure.
There are many factors that influence sex drive from personal belief, age, time of life, stress and prescription drugs. If you feel that your sex drive has flagged without reason try improving your diet and doing a little exercise it can really help with energy levels and release of tension. Sometimes simply making time for sex can help to kick-start the sexual stages even if you didn’t feel like making love in the first place. Libido can be improved with regular sex and sexual effert. Try booking a night a week with your partner for fun, sex games and couples sex toys you will find that your ongoing libido increases with regular sexual activity.
Stage 2 – Desire
Most of the time desire begins with your mind, the biggest sex aid you have. Your mind is undoubtedly the biggest sex organ and if it isn’t there your body isn’t going to follow. You may have sex drive by the truckloads but if you don’t feel the motivation or desire then the sexual satisfaction will be lacking. There are people that can have sex whilst thinking about what to cook for tea but ultimately there is little true satisfaction in the act. Involvement can be felt when using a vibrator or with your partner as long as your mind is part of the process. A sensual touch, a sexy glance, an erotic book or a sexual enhancer to ignite your mental interest can be all it takes to spark your desire
Stage 3 – Arousal
Once your mind is desirous your body experiences arousal. Your nipples grow and harden and your clitoris engorges with blood heightening sensitivity, your natural lubrication begins and your breathing becomes shallow. Your physical signs alter and you feel horny. If your physical arousal does not trigger the effects you want there are various ways to bring on the effect or encourage the response you desire.
Sex Lubricant can counter hormonal dryness, cock rings can help prolong an erection, clitoral gel can improve female genital sensitivity, and nipple gel that can harden your nipples and provide a pleasurable tingle.
Stage 4 – Orgasm
Orgasm is the pleasurable conclusion to sex and differs from person to person. From zero to full on climax takes different time scales and the plateau stage (the peak of pleasure before you tip over into orgasm) varies to each individual. Don’t believe that orgasm is the ultimate goal during intercourse, a place to be hurried to and under enormous pressure to reach. The ancient writings of the Kama Sutra focus on the path travelled together rather than the destination and it would be far more enjoyable for couples to take time on each other’s sexual response. Foreplay can involve sensual massage, sex toy play or soft bondage, enjoying the quality time and bonding aspects of your private moments together. Taking off the pressure and enjoying a longer arousal stage can bring on a natural orgasm that leads to ultimate satisfaction and closeness.
