Using Clitoral Vibrators During Sex
Using Clitoral Vibrators During Sex
Couples sex toys are easily found in any sex shop or online store, vibrator kits and cock rings that shout out partner pleasure but what are the best choices when it comes to clitoral stimulation during sex. It has long been a known statistic that most women need clitoral stimulation during love making to orgasm and many couples are looking for clitoral vibrators to ensure female climax at the end of a sex session.
A male friend of mine recently took a lady to bed for the first time and she produced a finger vibrator which she used for the duration and he asked me if he should be offended, which he obviously was. A part of me really admired this woman who in her mid thirties knew what she wanted from her sexual encounters and wasn’t afraid of taking sex toys along to achieve it. It may be harder for a first time encounter but in truth many of us girls need an aid for clitoral stimulation if we are to ‘get off’, it really isn’t any reflection on the male performance or ability in the sack.
The choice of clitoral vibrator to use during sex is dependant on your favoured sexual position and whether you want to engage in simultaneous manual clitoral stimulation or want to massage hands free.
The cheapest form of hands free clitoral stimulation during sex is the vibrating cock ring. The ring serves to keep his erection harder for longer and the vibrator attachment rubs against the clitoris during intercourse. Using a vibrating cock ring in the missionary position allows the vibrator maximum contact with the clitoris and can be massaged in a rhythmic motion to your thrusts. The clitoral vibrator/cock ring ranges from a disposable ring with a 30-minute buzz life to a bullet vibrator cock ring such as the dinky banger or O Wow by screaming O. Indulge in your usual foreplay until your partners cock is hard and stretch the ring over the shaft, resting at the base of the cock with the vibrator turned to the outer side of his penis. Try to maintain contact with your partners body during penetration as this will ensure the pleasurable vibes stimulate the right spot long enough to build towards orgasm.
When choosing vibrators for use whilst masturbating bear in mind that the smaller versions will also be very effective for use with your partner. If you want a clitoral vibrator to satisfy during sex and self pleasure choose a small, slim vibe that won’t interfere with your partner’s or your own movements. The bullet vibrator is perfect for clitoral massage during sex, shaped to nestle inside the labia, small enough to fit in the palm of your hand and powerful enough to bring you to orgasm swiftly. The RO80mm Bullet is a perfect sex aid for couples as is the Dinky Pink, which stimulates with intensive vibration. The screaming O Bullet has to be the smallest of the bunch and the Dinky Vibe has the option of a textured sleeve for maximum stimulation.
Finger Vibrators are also a very useful tool for clitoral massage during penetration as they are attached to a digit for maximum control. There is no danger of fumbling for a dropped vibrator in the bed sheets just as your orgasmic peak builds although finger vibes tend to be less powerful than their bullet counterparts. Small & discreet vibrators also make great clit stims for sex, the discretion vibrator and the new slinky pink have a smooth contoured surface, which suits the soft shaping of the clitoris.
Once you have discovered the sex toys to use with your partner think about the positions that allow you or your partner to massage the clitoral area without turning the penetrative flow into a contortionists trick. Here are our pick of the best 4 sexual positions to adopt:
Legs Up High
- This position is great as it allows you to lie on your back but doesn't leave your pubic area obstructed. Lift your legs and prop them behind your partners arms (he can either kneel forward or use his arms for support). Reach down to massage with your vibrator but keep your legs apart so that the clitoris remains open enough for your sensual rub.
Missionary Position
– Stick to the old favourite for use with vibrating cock rings as the vibrating unit will be able to remain close to the clitoris and the bump and grind will deliver a clitoral massage to die for!
Doggy Position
– Kneel on all fours, tilt your pelvis back and drop your shoulders. This position enables your partner to hit the pleasurable g spot and you can reach between your legs for a clitoral massage. Either lean on one arm or use your shoulders to support your upper back with your head turned to the side. You may also find that the swelling of the clitoris increases when facing the bed which improves sensitivity and orgasm.
Spoons
– Lying on your sides with your back to your lover gives free access to your clitoris for manual stimulation but it is also an ideal position for your partner to reach over your side and use the vibrator on you. Another method is to take a larger vibrator such as the Velvet Touch and squeeze it against your clitoris moving back and forth in tandem with your partner. The repetitive rub combined with a pelvic squeeze against the vibrating shaft will bring you to climax in no time.
