The Beginners Guide To Masturbation

Some women discover their orgasmic capabilities during adolescence, others do not masturbate until adulthood. For some women achieving orgasm has been an easy exercise whereas not all women can climax with ease. Its easy to say ‘do what comes naturally’ but what if you feel that nothing comes that naturally and attempts at masturbation have lead to frustration and anti-climax. What if you have reached adult hood and haven’t experienced an orgasm alone or with a partner. Learning to achieve self pleasure with or without sex toys is an important part of physical health and emotional intelligence. Research into female masturbation has firmly ruled out blindness and concludes that self pleasure has many health benefits and emotional positives that permeate throughout all areas of your life. If you feel out of touch with your sexual response it is never too late to begin enjoying your body and understanding how self pleasure benefits you. Sexual desire is a natural human response and manual stimulation and sex toys can lead to a very satisfying and necessary sex life.

Although a complete biology lesson would be unnecessary, think back to your sex education classes as a girl. We were all shown text book diagrams of fallopian tubes and reproductive organs but how well does the education system deal with issues of self pleasure and its areas of importance on the body. On the face of it the male anatomy is easier to see and understand, whereas the female inner workings are covered by a pubic mound with inner and outer lips. If you have never experienced masturbation before begin by familiarising yourself with your body, take a mirror, sit down and open your legs taking note of the two sets of lips, vagina, clitoris and anus. If you beginning with self pleasure for the first time concentrating on the upper clitoral area would be a great place to start. The tip of the clitoris is the nub right at the top just above where the inner labia meet. It is protected by a small hood of skin which protects its highly sensitive surface. The clitoris is the only organ in the entire body which exists for the sole purpose of pleasure and contains hundreds of sensitive nerve endings that can take you to orgasm with ease. Most women prefer their clitoris touched via the hood rather than directly due to its hyper sensitivity but experiment yourself and develop a style which brings you most pleasure. When you begin massaging the clitoral area you will notice an engorgement as blood flows to the tissue and creates a swelling, when this happens you know arousal is building.

When ready to masturbate make sure you are relaxed and have the time to ‘take your time’. Feeling anxious or having to rush because there is something else to do will not help you to become absorbed in the act which is crucial for full enjoyment. It is helpful to begin by understanding how your body works when you become aroused. Thinking about sex or a sexual fantasy can be very helpful in turning your body on and focuses your attention on your genitals. When you become aroused a cocktail of chemicals create a sense of well being, your skin becomes warm and flushed and your muscles tighten. Your erectile tissue will swell at your clitoris, nipples and lips and your vagina will engorge and produce natural lubrication. Your eyes brighten and sense of smell heightens whilst your skin gives off a pheromone, becoming more responsive to stimulation. Indulging in a erotic book, naughty film or thinking about a sexual fantasy can be a fabulous way of beginning this process making your masturbation enjoyable and orgasm more intense. Using your finger or sex toy, apply a light cover of sex lubricant and begin by massaging the clitoris in a circular motion using the hood to move over the most sensitive area. Sex toys can be a great way for a beginner to experience an orgasm as the vibrations are effective arousal inducers and make the process to orgasm much quicker than a manual method. Clitoral Vibrators are designed to suit your pleasure spot perfectly and in the case of Funfactorys Layaspot can even be laid on the pubic area in the first instance. There is much you can do to enable orgasm once your manual stimulation method is chosen. Breathe slowly and rhythmically whilst tightening and releasing your pelvic muscles to gradually build the climax. Many women feel this contraction into the tops of your legs and you can practise the movement at any time to feel its benefit. Once you feel yourself moving towards orgasm try and slow down your hand movements or lighten the pressure with your vibrator, once you have climaxed the sensitivity will be at its maximum and contact may be hard to bear.
When you have felt the benefits of orgasm through clitoral stimulation try Vibrators for vaginal penetration, it may be that this method works for you too. Experiment and move on to different positions and toys to bring on blended orgasms and stimulation to other parts of the body. Once you begin you will find a favourite routine and can even introduce it into your sexual routine. Many couples sex toys allow you to demonstrate your new found sexual techniques and enable your partner to use your favourite method or sex toy on you during foreplay or sex. Enjoy!