Whip up a sexual frenzy in the bedroom

Ever fancied the idea of some bondage play in the bedroom but not really sure where to start?
We have enlisted the help of Emma G our resident bondage expert to give her advice on beginning with soft bondage play, sexual power play & becoming a dominatrix.

Firstly lets get one thing straight any bondage play needs to be between two mutually consenting adults who are both equally willing to experiment with changing roles in the bedroom. Communication is the key & an intuitive understanding of the other person helps as does setting out various rules & signals if one of you has had enough.
Bondage & domination never works in casual relationships as it can raise many issues & insecurities but for couples that want to introduce bondage play into their sex life here are my tips to perfect power play.

Adopting a role is often a good way of changing your parameters of behaviour & expressing a new sexual repertoire. Choose a sexy outfit such as office bitch or school matron teaming a pencil skirt with sexy heels & suspenders. Make your man attend an interview & dominate him in the boardroom or make him enter your school office for a naughty boy punishment he will remember. As part of your role play introduce a rubber whip or leather paddle for some soft bondage spanking it will increase adrenalin & increase blood flow circulation to really heat things up in the bedroom.

Simply taking control of your partner & taking complete control during sex can be a massive turn on. You don’t have to enter the room clad head to toe in black pvc with spike heels to grab his attention, instead treat him roughly during intercourse, push him to the bed & make him feel as though you are thoroughly prepared to use him for your pleasure, believe me you will both enjoy it especially if you have entered a routine whereby only one of you usually takes the lead.

Statistics quote that a buttock slapping 78% of men would like to indulge in bondage play. The obvious choices from any bondage section are blindfolds & handcuffs & punishment with sensory deprivation heightens sensitivity & increases sexual excitement. Once your man is trussed up on the bed use one of the new massage candles on the market for a heady mixture of sensual indulgence. Jimmy Jane’s luxury Afterglow Massage Candle emits a spicy scent before the warm wax is tipped onto your lover’s body to be massaged into the skin as body oil, a veritable feast for the senses!

The role-play reversal is a good way of playing with power & giving a testosterone boost to the woman in the partnership. Lots of couples experiment with strap ons for her & many men testify to enjoying the look & feel of a dildo on there partner.
Lets be fair ladies & obey the boudoir etiquette of not introducing a dildo bigger than your partner’s member & remember a smaller version will be more comfortable for your man to take if he decides to do so. The beginners strap on for him is a wonderful introduction to taking your man & the vibrating strap on for him adds some buzz in the bedroom.

And finally don’t forget to tickle. It may not sound an obvious technique for a dominatrix but tickling heightens sensitivity. Tie up your man & tickle away but don’t forget the licking all over afterwards!